"Nigeria is a society where men jail vaginas. They control them with glee and tickle them until they become moist. Too moist means she is not a virgin because the excessive moisture is evidence of her enjoyment of the tickle. Moist enough means she is a good girl. You treat her carefully so you will not "mess her up."
In fact, an entire community, or at least the designated decision makers, can have a stake in girls' vaginas. That's why elders can charge a higher bride price if the girl is "unspoiled." The unspoken message conveyed is that the woman does not control her own body. It is for society to monitor and suppress, praise and scorn.
Pastors can refuse to wed a female church member who is having sex with a man she loves. Even the suspicion of sexual involvement can prevent a Christian woman from getting married in the church she attends. Let her stay outside and commit sin because that is what Jesus would have done, they suppose."
- Chika Oduah
Chika provokes thoughts - and provokes! Read the rest here...
http://www.bellanaija.com/2013/03/06/chika-oduah-where-the-vagina-counts/
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