Thanks, Brother Toyin:
Yes, I agree that "one can't really say without examining the people's private lives." Also, the woman could be asexual (low interest in sex). And, of course, there are married couples with normal age differences who stop having sex after 2-4 kids and still go on to have a healthy and enriching relationship. Essentially, "sex is not everything." They touch, they kiss, they cuddle, they caress…
Best,
Sabella
Beautiful piece from Sabella.
On the sex issue, however, various options exist, from medical to natural enhancers to lifestyle management, so one can't really say without examining the people's private lives.
One might also need to be wary of insisting there can be no mental synergy between the couple. They could both bring something enriching to the table.
Thanks
Toyin
--On Mon, Oct 14, 2024, 7:50 AM 'Michael Afolayan' via USA Africa Dialogue Series <usaafricadialogue@googlegroups.com> wrote:--I am happy for the twenty-something year old girl getting married to a near septuagenarian. This is because by the time she finally gets married to her real husband, she would have amassed the wealth syphoned from the old man who was unwittingly drawn to her by virtue of lust and not of love. The old man would be six-feet down under by then, and she will then move on and establish a real home in grand style. It's called Àfọwọ́fà on the part of the man, and Oríire for the young girl. No regrets for her!MOAOn Monday, October 14, 2024 at 06:42:44 AM GMT+1, Toyin Falola <toyinfalola@austin.utexas.edu> wrote:Professor Abide has lumped together many things here, from international politics to domestic affairs. If disentangled, we could take one each. The case of the man I. The 60s marrying someone in the 20s may not have to do with his variables but with social loss. And there are health issues.TFGet Outlook for iOS
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Subject: Re: [External] [SOCIAL NETWORK] USA Africa Dialogue Series - With a keg of palm wine - further observations and the observablesHi Bro SabellaIn truth, I have always explained this phenomenon within my concept of the "law of self-interest" and the "law of group interest." In short, I have argued, and continue to contend, that the "law of self-interest" will always trump our moral values or judgments. This concept suggests that at one time or the other almost "everyone of us" have lied, cheated, exaggerated, made an uncomfortable decision, etc because it was in our interest to do so. For example, when January 6, 2021 happened most of my Republican brothers and sisters condemned it unequivocally. But, tout a coup, these same Republicans are singing a different song today because it is in their interest (i.e. law of self-interest) to do so. This assumption could be applied to some of the valid issues you raised in your submission. I rest my case.
Bro Ike Udogu
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In my formative years, Nigeria had more than fifty critics and public intellectuals who made "life difficult" for successive administrations and sensitized the public to what was happening publicly and in the corridors of power. We do not seem to have them anymore. In the first place, some critics and intellectuals went into exile of their own volition, while many became contractors, consultants, politicians, and political appointees. Why blame anyone? The Blackmaria and Kirikiri have a way of messing with one's sanity; besides, we all have bills to pay and families to feed.
If Iran or Syria had caused thousands of pagers and or other electronic devices to go off and, in the process, injured and or killed an untold number of people anywhere in the world, the US and her NATO allies would have been pounding the tables at the UN calling for heads to roll. Western media would have had "Terror, Terrorism, Terrorists" repeated over a billion times. The US Congress would have held "special hearings." But because Benjamin Netanyahu did it, no one dared to voice their disapproval or condemnation. Does Benjamin Netanyahu have the license to maim and kill at will?
For more than 40 years, the State of Israel – especially under Benjamin Netanyahu – has been assassinating Palestinian, Iranian, Lebanese, and Syrian scientists, military officers, and political leaders. The victims were never accused, tried, convicted, or sentenced by a competent legal body. Strangely, much of the world seems not to care about these free-reign assassinations. I guess it is up to the Israeli government to decide who lives and who dies. By the way, those camps that house thousands of Palestinian women and children, are they holding cells, prisons, or concentration camps?
Vladimir Putin has been Russia's head of state and or head of government since 1999. He inherited a "bad and weak Russia" but improved it within two decades. However, for reasons only he and psychologists would understand, he embarked on adventures that have limited Russia's influence regionally and globally, making him look provincial, inexperienced, and unable to challenge the US or influence global politics. For years, many countries saw Russia as a better alternative to Washington DC and China; sadly, Putin took that choice off the table. He is self-immolating.
Other than "Chinese Nationalism," why is China bent on delegitimizing Taiwan? I believe that an independent Taiwan would be to the advantage of China. And why has China not invaded Taiwan? Simple: For more than six decades, Beijing has known that annexation would be costly and disastrous economically, militarily, and politically. But here you have Xi Jinping and the CCP threatening Taipei. Other than "throwing" billions here and there, in what ways, for instance, has Beijing shaped or swayed Washington's foreign policy?
Chinese President Xi Jinping has pledged $51 billion in funding to African nations. It was annoying and comical at the same time. What is fifty-one billion dollars to a continent like Africa?! There are three ironies here: First, combined, African leaders steal at least twice that amount yearly and mismanage about the same amount every year. Second, they perpetuate the narrative that Africa is a continent of beggars and people who cannot wipe their running noses even with the lights on. Third, you wonder why most leaders worldwide do not respect African leaders.
A 63-year-old friend of mine in Nigeria is getting married to a 23-year-old. Many of our friends and neighbors would not have frowned on their relationship if she were his mistress, concubine, or a "plaything." But his wife? I am genuinely happy for him, though. That is the kind of person that I am. But as delighted as I am for him, I sometimes imagine the daily conversations. And the differences in their taste in music, movies, fashion, and food? And then the sex. Yes, the sex! And the coming babies?
Sabella Ogbobode Abidde
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