been suffering as a hen-pecked husband over a long period of time and
this is not a side issue:
http://www.google.com/search?q=Domsetic+violence+against+men
It's the sort of issue that is surely being addressed by people like
Pastor Adeboye, the Rev. Commander Pastor Ebenezer Obey and perhaps
more importantly, the Federal Ministry of Women Affairs and Social
Development.
Fortunately, Dr. Wigwe is not a Muslim and so is not under a cloud of
suspicion that he was acting under legal cover, to some extent
provided by Sharia and that he had merely exceeded the limits set by
Islamic Law. And by the way here the Islamic law not vilified but
explained in a more compassionate light:
http://www.google.com/search?q=OIC+Fatwa+on+Domestic+Violence++in+Islam
So the question that remains is what does Nigerian Law say about
domestic violence?
And Kenyan Law?
To Abdul Bangura: you talk about Italy and Sweden … what can you tell
us about the African Diaspora in the United States with regard to
violent wife-husband dis-agreements?
And apart from Islamic education and respect for Sharia etc. what
global remedy do you suggest for the majority of people who are not
Believers?
On Jun 7, 11:41 pm, Abdul Karim Bangura <th...@earthlink.net> wrote:
> Indeed, it is true that more husbands beat their wives compared to wives who beat their husbands. Awka is quite correct in stating that many wives do beat their husbands, sometimes mercilessly. All one has to do is an Internet search of youtube with he words "wife beating husband" to see plenty of this. In Italy, more wives beat their husbands compared to husbands who beat their wives. Even among the widely perceived gentle Swedes, I was quite surprised to learn about many husband and wife beatings. The problem is global; thus, a global remedy is needed.-----Original Message-----
> From: Nkolika Ebele
> Sent: Jun 7, 2011 4:58 PM
> To: "usaafricadialogue@googlegroups.com"
> Subject: Re: USA Africa Dialogue Series - Wigwe: Why I beat my wifeMadam.,
>
> I think it is wrong to describe another person's experience as untrue. Yes it is customary for men to beat women which is very bad ,but I have also witnessed situations where women abuse their husbands even physically. In one situation the woman after pounding the man into a pulp,give herself some briuses and start shouting on top of her voice that neighbousr initially thought that it was the man that initiated the beating. On one occassion a neighbour stumbled in and what she saw was unbelievable. There are so many of such cases, it is because the ,men in such situations feel embarassed to tell their story. You know they will not look man eneough in African tradition where the man is expected to be the stronger partner. So better leave this family to sort themselves out.
>
> Nkolika
>
> Awka
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Eke, Maureen Ngozi" <eke1mn@cmich.edu>
> To: "usaafricadialogue@googlegroups.com" <usaafricadialogue@googlegroups.com>
> Cc:
> Sent: Tuesday, June 7, 2011 9:07 PM
> Subject: RE: USA Africa Dialogue Series - Wigwe: Why I beat my wife
> Now, I have to weigh in on this. I have held my tongue, hoping that someone will address the perennial issue of wife beating, among our people. This is a human rights violation covered by the UN convention on the abolition of all forms of violence against women! How do we help our people get it in their heads that one's gender or identify as a woman does not condemn one to exterm1nation?
> Despite Dr. Wigwe's claim that he is the abused husband in this case, I hate to say that I am not convinced. Beat the wife or kill her and then demonize her in a public diatribe. Shame on him! Enough! So, someone now feels sorry for him and chooses to ignore that his wife was wounded?
> And, we are to take his narrative as "nothing but the truth?" What gives him the right to beat his wife or even push her to the point that she is wounded?
> I hate to say this, but I have heard many similar tales from Nigerian and African men who beat their wives and blame them for the incidents. Years ago, the police where I lived brought a young woman to my apartment early one morning (1:00 a.m.) to keep her safe. She had been severely beaten by her husband, threatened with a knife and all of this before her children (two boys), who also have taken to insulting her. She would not go into a shelter because she was too embarrassed to do so. For weeks, the woman and I had to devise ways of keeping her safe and making sure her husband did not discover where she was staying,...
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