I will not pretend, as you did, to hold my tongue. Your biased writeup made me so angry that I have had to engage in this self-disclosure.
Did they not teach you that in writing on any subject, you ought to subdue your personal and subjective feelings and try to be as objective as you can possibly be? For many years, I have known some MEN who are abused by their marital spouses verbally, mentally,psychologically and physically.
My pastor refers to them as women who usurp authority at the home and whip their husbands. Embarrassed, the men are forced to remain quiet, subdued, introvertish, and unduly tolerant. Women like you who jump to defend every case of domestic abuse as originating and perpetrated by the men don't seem to care that there are men who are suffering and have suffered a lot in silence. Western modernism is, of course, to blame.
Women never do wrong because we men committed the sin to choose them as our partners only to find out the mistake we made by marrying them in the first place. The only mistake which Dr. Wigwe made was to have married that silly, shameless, termagant, that ranting crazy bastard who had no shame in molesting anyone publicly because of her incurable jealous spirit. Was she to have been a self-respecting, sweet, woman, the kind exemplified in the book of Proverbs 31, we would all be condemning Dr. Wigwe.
What annoys me most is that feminists like you never ask what led to the battering? You outrightly condemn the men without paying any heed to the years of incessant abuse by a female batterer. You do not care if the man was so mistreated that he had a stroke, stress, or high-blood pressure. You find solace in using your vagina to torture men and expect them not to fight back. The tragedy is that the children are the poor victims of these dysfunctional homes and, once the woman is enraged, she cares less what would happen to the children.
Dr. Eke, you ought to be fair to admit that you did not reside with the Wigwe family and can never know completely what transpired within the inner chambers of their home. Mrs. Wigwe, like many so-called modern women, has destroyed her man, his career, and whatever pride the children would have. She went public instead of following the African traditional means of conflict resolution. She did not complain to the parents and family of Dr. Wigwe. She took matters into her own hands. And, did you care to read the testimony of Junior Wigwe against her mother?
Have you not read of many Nigerian women murdered here in the United States? Do you think we men are happy about such tragedies? But, does anyone ever take the time to ask what led the men to kill their wives. All we here is often the story from the woman's side. It never occurs to many women that in any case of infidelity, adultry, prostitution, and cheating, it takes another willing WOMAN for a man to commit the offense.
I am really offended by the blatant one-sidedness of your writeup and state that it were better you kept shut as you claimed. Do a research on the MEN WHO HAVE BEEN ABUSED BY WOMEN since the emergence of Western style of FEMINISM and you will be shocked at their pains and misery. This is my challenge to YOU!
E.S. Etuk, Ph.D
AWARD-WINNING Author of 14 books.
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