Na waa oh! Ikhide my brother-in-law has better strategies these lazy ones.
From: usaafricadialogue@googlegroups.com [usaafricadialogue@googlegroups.com] on behalf of Oluwatoyin Adepoju [tovadepoju@gmail.com]
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I know this post has little or no relevance to this group but it could help us relax.--
It could help if we could post such relaxing material at times.
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From: Brad Snyder <brad@thetruthaboutpickingupwomen.com>
Date: Sun, Oct 13, 2013 at 9:05 PM
Subject: Here Is Your Free Chapter From The Truth About Picking Up Women
To: Toyin Adepoju <tovadepoju@gmail.com>
How To Start A Conversation With A Woman In A Public Place
Starting a conversation with a woman in a public place is actually pretty simple if you know what you're doing.
If you don't know what you are doing, it can seem insurmountably difficult.
Of course persistence and tolerating discomfort will be the keys to practicing enough to master this skill.
Normally this is where most advice would go into things like direct versus indirect, scripted opening lines and routines, but all of this information at best, will waste your time, at worst would just confuse you further with tactics that just don't work well in the real world.
I'm going to save you years of trial, error and frustration by giving you the method that most reliably and naturally starts conversations with women routinely.
That method is situational observation.
Situational observation is pretty simple, it basically means observing something a woman is doing, wearing or saying at a given moment and making a statement or asking a question about it. The point is, it is an observation with situational relevance.
That is why walking up to a women in a supermarket and saying something like "Who lies more, men or women"? (which is a famous scripted opener by the way) is completely irrelevant to her situation unless she happens to be talking about that topic.
The response you will usually be met with, when using openers like that is a look from her that says "What are you, taking a survey"?
Another mistake would be walking up to a woman and saying something like "I saw you across the store and thought you are beautiful and wanted to say hi" usually doesn't get a conversation started naturally for a number of reasons.
Aside from sounding like a weirdo and revealing too much interest too fast, the biggest reason being it is not relevant to her situation. I'm sure she's not sitting there at that moment food shopping and thinking about how beautiful she is.
Like a predator you want to observe and be present in the moment. You want to notice things about her like clothes, tattoos, dyed hair color, jewelry, the items in her cart, items she's looking at, something she just said to a friend with her.
Then with confident body language (good posture, good eye contact) you want to ask a question or make a statement about something you observed.
Some examples would be:
You notice she has a tattoo and say "So what's your tattoo, do you have any more"?
You see salmon and icing in her cart and say in a sarcastic tone "What are you having iced salmon for dessert"?
You see her staring in indecision at two kinds of bread and you make the sarcastic statement "Yeah it's always the smallest things that cause the biggest decisions, I'm the same way, I come in here and can spend an hour trying to decide between two fucking loaves of bread".
All of these things should be said with a confident but slightly disinterested demeanor, as if you had no intention of saying this to her but were spontaneously inspired by the moment.
Of course to move the conversation further your are going to need to transition to different topics.
You can accomplish this by paying close attention to her answers and asking a follow-up questions to get more information to be able to move to a different topic and maybe find some commonalities between the two you.
For every two questions you ask her, make sure you either answer one of her questions or make a statement about yourself.
Some examples:
You see her deciding on bread-
You: Wow its always the smallest things that make the most indecision. I'm the same way 2 hours to decide on fucking bread
Her: Yeah I have to make my lunch for work everyday and I am getting tired of the same bread.
You: Oh I know bread variety is important, (said with sarcasm) so where do you work?
Her: I work at Active Fitness gym.
You: Really? I am a personal trainer myself. So how long have you worked there? I actually know a few trainers there.
You notice her in barnes and noble looking at teen fiction and she looks to be in her early twenties-
You: Wow aren't you a little old for teen fiction?
Her: I'm really immature
You: Oh my favorite, immature girls. Shouldn't you be reading 50 Shades of Grey by now?
Her: Oh I'm done them
You: Really, so do you think it's an accurate potrayel of male female relationships?
When you get good at starting conversations with women you won't even remember what you said to start the exchange. You will have internalized how to do it and it will be a habit.
How you say things matters as much as what you say, but remember the point of saying anything is just to open communication with a women for more interactions in the future.
If you are not in the habit of starting conversations with women already this will seem difficult at first. But remember most things worth learning are difficult at first.
Of course starting a conversation with a women is just the beginning on the road to complete seduction but without that skill, you will never have the chance to get on the road at all.
This free chapter is from the soon to be released eBook The Truth About Picking Up Women by Brad Snyder.
P.S. Hey Toyin -
Go put this chapter into action by going out and approaching some women.
I'll be sending you a few emails a week with all kinds of no bullshit valuable information on picking up women, seduction, and attraction from my newsletter The Truth About Picking Up Women that is normally sold as a subscription for $97 a month, but right now I'm giving it to you free.
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